Make your love life a living testament to the peace you find in independence, so that when someone does enter your sphere, they're adding to an already beautiful existence, not creating one for you.

@h.yeli

re-realizing my childhood mindset of "i can be who i am in peace and if you don't like me you don't have to look at me or talk to me"

You don’t need an excuse to do something for yourself that you enjoy. Go get a treat, take a bath, draw in a coloring book, go sit in a book store, add more sugar to your coffee, buy another journal. Life is to be enjoyed, you don’t have to justify your actions, you just need to live.

i post for people who feel like they’re inherently unlikable to others without being able to tell what the reason is

hmm. maybe u were put on this earth to make art and write bad poetry and create silly little playlists and being kind and maybe tearing up a little bit when you see old people eating alone

jessczapalskipoetry

Truth is the glow up most of you are looking for is called decentering everyone else (especially men) and centering yourself.

'I don't do it for them I do it for me' okay then why do you only use your best cutlery for visitors. Why do you only use your best perfume and dress when going out with friends?? Only wear your cute lingerie for that boy/girl?? Whyyy do you have to bring up your future plans 169669 times to people you know are not listening and will invalidate you? In fact unless they're investing in them why are you telling anyone your future plans at all?? Why did you wear all that make up just to take pics and post just to delete because they didn't get enough likes or Mr iliveinmynonsbasemateandimanincel said you're a 4 on a good day?? Why does that matter?? Why is it important to you that everyone knows you had an A and are moving out next month?? If you don't do it for them why are you so desperate to show them???

Decenter people from your life and make yourself the center of gravity, the axis by which your universe spins. Until you learn to think 'do I like them? Am I impressed by them? Do they add value to me????' Over 'do they like me?? Did my 25 detailed year plan for the future make me cool to them?? Am I feminine enough for him??' You haven't had a glow up.

I is the word you need. Me, myself, I. You'd rather be a narcissist than a people pleaser. I said what i said. Rather be a loner than a omg let me bend over so they have a flat surface when they walk on me kind of girl. Babe your mom doesn't care that your skin looks better, she hasn't for the past 21 years she won't now. That boy cares how fast your legs go open he has no idea what types of eyeliner exists. Those girls at school genuinely only care about your existence when they gossip. And EVEN ON THE BRIGHT SIDE, say, your dad really does care you had an A. So??? So your friends really liked your outfit. That's cool, I won't take anything from that, it's great. It's just, approval should be a SIDE EFFECT that means almost nothing past six seconds of seterotonin spike, not the driving force.

Positive feedback is the same level of destructive as negative feedback, opinions and validations shouldn't be the center.

The ultimate glow up is damn I deserve those pretty mugs and to smell like Dior every day and look hot every occasion and I deserve to stay in in my pj's regardless if the president is visiting and do I like them?? Who cares if they like me, do I like them??

STOP THINKING THERE IS A DEADLINE. THERE IS NO DEADLINE. TAKE A DEEP BREATH AND TAKE YOUR TIME.